00:00:00OR: Can you tell us a little bit of how it was like when you first arrived here?
Did you have any struggles?
M: I came here on November 27, 1978 and I arrived in Chicago with $44 in my
00:01:00pocket. I didn't even know where to go, I know I have relatives in Ohio here,
and luckily a person helped me at the airport, I showed him the address and he
put me on a plane and I came to Ohio, which my sister and her husband, they were
here and it was hard for me at the beginning because I had to go school, and
they helped me actually the first quarter, they paid $600 for me to go to
school; and at that time $600 for me was too much money for me, I had only $44
in my hand what was I going to do? Then I end up, start going to college and
start working; my first job was working at the valet parking at Sheraton Hotel.
I was getting $1.78 an hour, and after that I started looking for other things
to do, and it happened I was doing a few jobs at the same time, working
salesman, working at Sheraton, work in the kitchen; and I used to get
sleep--maybe only 3-4 hours of sleep some weeks, I didn't get much sleep. I
wanted to accomplish myself, I wanted to be when I go back to my country, my
family I wanted to be proud of me; my mom and dad especially because they were
opposed to me coming here as I said before, I had dream I wanted to come to
America. So I established myself, I worked very hard. I met the wife in 1985;
she was going to school, she spent about 7 years back and forth between here and
Egypt, while I was working here. And When she came back, we felt like we are
married again, because it was kinda like, ya know we were married but she was
distant, and we have been working since. We established ourselves alhamdulillah,
00:02:00great and she has her own dental office and I have my business also, and the
kids help me in it. We are in real estate, we do real estate commercial
buildings and rent them and we have a car dealer, and we send the kids to
school, it was very expensive and I didn't want them to come out of school with
student loans, so we have to pay for the school while they're going; and it got
to the point, when they were going the three of them at the same time, we were
playing like a little over $11-12,000 each quarter, it was very difficult for
us. But thanks to God they all graduated and the wife graduated and she's doing
good in her dental office, and that's how we started. It was very difficult
00:03:00beginning, very very difficult beginning. You know the first thing, the language
was big problem for me, and to know you're way around it was a little bit of an
obstacle. My dream was to have a car and one day to have a house, it was my
dream. And then alhamdulillah we achieve all our goals. So there's nothing
impossible, anything is possible if you put your mind to it, you'll achieve your
goals and get there.
H: Dr. Gehan, you have a dentist office, right?
G: Yes, I do.
H: And, of course you have customers who are Americans and Arabs and otherwise?
G: Yes, all.
H: How did that knowing you're Arab American, did that affect your business at all?
G: I don't think so. Like you know, people after they come and they get the kind
00:04:00of service that I offer for them, they're very happy and they appreciate what I
do and even where I come from.
M [adds]: Even though, she gets more patients than some other doctors because
she's female, she speaks the languages; and her office is probably is the only
office that speaks four languages there.
G: Yes.
M [continues]: so they can in Arabic, Latinos, Somalian and English; so any
patient that come in and doesn't speak English they have a person, you know an
assistant, who speaks in a different language, all of them.
G: Yeah, we do that on the spot.
M: So, she's doing very well, she's very successful, she's actually one of the
good doctors in Columbus
G: Yeah, ahamdulilah. Like Mohamed said, when I first came here, you know it was
00:05:00really difficult. I was 21, my husband 27 when we got married. We were both
working; my first job was at Pizza Hut, I still remember it [laughs]. It was
hard [laughs]. And now thinking about it from Pizza Hut to where I'm at right
now, I feel blessed. I feel very happy that I was able to accomplish or do what
I did, you know, and go to college and raise my kids and put them through school
and find me and my husband. I'm feeling very happy, very proud of what I did.
MES: So when did you get a chance of meeting all those awesome people that you
have the pictures of in your office?
M: That was back in probably, my beginning was of all those things back in '94,
and that's when I started getting involved in, you know, in the local
governments and things like that. So, throughout the years from '94 through
00:06:00those days, and I'm still very active and I represent the community here, we
have a very large community in Columbus. I represent to the community on
multiple levels, in Washington and lots of times when they have the process and
people come from overseas and I'm always invited and get my ticket to be
invited. You know actually, I had clearance to the White House, it wasn't easy
to get in so they have to check, You know and so I've been there many many many
of times. I attend most of the peace meetings in Washington, I was invited to.
MES: So how does your dream evolve from only have a car and a house and maybe
someday you're going to have a house, to like actually being in that position,
like being involved in politics and economics and businesses?
M: Determination, when you're determined. I am also a private pilot, I learned
00:07:00how to fly. I wanted to do too many things I wanted to do. I had so much energy
and I never wasted my time. So any opportunity I was thinking about, I will do
it. So I start businesses in 1980, which I came here in 1978, so in three years
we had the business in Cincinnati. After that I start first business and then
moved to other different businesses, and I have probably in total about 12
different categories of business. And thanks to God, we have been very
successful, we did not fail in any of them [clears throat]. Now for the last few
years, we got out to the retail business we focus on the real estate, which is
much more productive for us and easier. And with the age, you just relax and
take a little break. And I want to spend time with the family more. I feel like
00:08:00the quality time now is to spend with the family and the kids and just to be
able to travel without having that stress in you 'Where am I gonna come up with
that money? How am I gonna pay the bills?' So uh, as I said the determination
that you want to achieve your goal you want to be some important person in your
life, you wanna be an important figure, you have to be part of the culture, part
of society which you just have to continue going, I mean determination will get
you where you wanna get. Even though it was a struggle for me to come up with
the money at the beginning, but I was working so many hours I believe from the
middle 80s to maybe just last couple of years. I was putting in hours 15, 17
hours per day, that's seven days a week. I never took a vacation until actually
probably 5 years ago when the wife, uh, she started to have her dental office,
we start being a little bit more comfortable financially, that's when I started
00:09:00being able to take vacations. For probably 25-30 years I never took a vacation.
H: And it seems through your business you're offering a lot of job, employment
opportunities for younger generations. Can you tell us about your employees,
like where are they from basically?
M: Well, it's a-- we hire lots of people. We had too many different hires, local
people some of our peoples who come in from overseas. We never made difference
between them whether a person local and like, you know, born here, or whoever
can do the job we'll hire him and we treat them well, always I feel like, you
know, I'm investing in that person the money I'm giving to him. I treated them
with respect, and they were very loyal to us. We never had any issues with
employees. Very loyal. We treat them with full respect, pay them on time, treat
them with dignity, and they were loyal to us even though at one point I have 12
00:10:00businesses running at the same time. From Colorado to Ohio to Columbus and
Cincinnati, at the same time. So I was just traveling, a lot of times I just do
a lot of traveling and at the same time I was going to school, to college. So I
was flying sometimes I could be in Colorado and my exam is tomorrow, I just come
and take the exam and leave.
MES: So I can see that there's like a lot of similarities between you and my
dad: that both of you, you started from like nothing and you came to like
something. But I always hear my dad telling me that he wants me to be not just
like him but even better. Do you feel the same for your children? How do you
push them towards that goal?
M: The time has changed. What we been through, you'll never be through. I always
try not to let my kids been through what I have been through. But, to be like
your dad or a little bit better, take his advice. When he tells you do
00:11:00something, or the way to do it, listen to him and take everything he said in
consideration. Take his advice because the only person that wants you to be
better than him is your dad. A father always wants to have his kids be
successful, and even than him and doing better. We get out of pride, we get
security for you and your family in the future, and the father will advise you.
He been through this, that's the expertise, the expert. The experience he had
before, the obstacles you don't have to go through it. So you just get the
result, he tell you to do it, that's the way it should be done -- listen.
MES: And how do you push your children, your adult children, they're not
children but [laughs].
G: [laughs]
M: I lecture them probably twice a week and sometimes they hate me [laughs] They
don't want no lectures because, you know, every time we sit down and have a few
minutes with them I try to always remind them, constant remind them. You do this
00:12:00and you do this and you do this. So the main thing, I want to keep them away
from all the troubles, that's one thing. I want them to keep their heritage,
where they came from. I want them to be a good citizen of the country here and
abroad, and I want them to be very highly educated, not just finish high school.
And I want them to be a person the people take them as a role model. When your
father remind you on a daily basis of things like that, eventually you're gonna
listen. So the first thing, you wanna finish your school, your education that's
the most important thing. And use your vision, you have to have vision, you
cannot just look, you know 'What are you gonna do today?' You have to think for
like 10 years and 20 years what am I gonna be in 20 years or 30 years and 50
years from now, 'When am I gonna be retired?' 'Am I gonna continue working for
somebody?' The paycheck sometimes, yeah it's great but you wanna be somebody.
00:13:00You want the people to take you as a role model.
OR: Do you have anything final to say about how you got here? Anything else to
say about your culture or your homeland that you want Americans to know?
M: I want the Americans to know that, as I said before, they did not have a clue
how the people they were living there in third world countries, most of them I
think people take for granted they're living in heaven and how it compared to
third world country. I love my country, and I will never [clears throat] wanted
to see the people think bad about our country. We have good values, we have
family tradition, we have good values, it's not even found in any society but
probably in the Middle East. We're very warm people, very generous, we're
honest, we look for our neighbors. The lack of information, the lack of
00:14:00knowledge that the American society had before; they always assume what we are,
they assume everybody has a camel for example, everyone has an oil well, which
is not. We work, we're very hard working people. We wanted to be like everybody
else, and we're normal people. Years ago before the war in Iraq, they didn't
know anything about the Middle East, if they see somebody wearing the veil they
look at them like an uneducated person, no. The women wear the veil, they're
veiled because they choose; no man forces wife. It's her option, her choice, if
she wants to wear it, fine; if she don't want to wear it, fine. So it's-- as I
said it's you know the wife has the choice to wear -- to practice her religion.
My wife, sometimes she wear it, sometime she doesn't; that's her choice, I don't
ask, you know. So my advice to the young generation: to look for the best, to be
00:15:00a hard worker, to focus on their school, to stay away from all the troubles and
bad friends and all this little crazy stuff going around, and look for future.
Think about your future for 20 and 30 and 50 years, where I am going to be. Am I
gonna be just another person live and make the living and eat and sleep or I
wanna be an important person, to be productive. Each one of us has a
responsibility, each one of us should live [inaudible], he leave this Earth and
the people say he did some, he left some behind. A legacy; you have to leave
some behind for the people who look after you.
G: I agree, you know, you have to have a purpose in life. You have to, in order
to be happy I think you have to contribute and not just take, you have to give.
00:16:00You know, for me I try to help younger people also and like students who wants
to become a dentist, like my door is always open and they come and they can
shadow me, and actually 3 of the people that shadowed me, they actually all got
into the dental school [chuckles]. I'm so happy for them. Also, the dental
assisting schools they always send people there actually; I have some awards
from them because I was helping a lot the dental school and dental assisting
school. So I'm always looking for ways to contribute more and more, you know,
always come up with an idea, you know "how can I contribute to my community?'
'How can I, like my husband said leave a thumbprint?' you know after you leave,
00:17:00what did you do? Did you have a purpose? Did you do something?
M: You know, when we go travel overseas, like especially in Palestine, we do
help whatever we can, it's not a large amount but we can do what we can for the
schools, hospital, I sponsor 5 kids from the university. When I was there on
trip, they are smart kids but they are short on their fees. We took care of
this. So, we try to help as much we can, and always just like the wife said, the
doctor said, or Gehan said: contribute. It doesn't mean you have to contribute,
what you can, what you can give. When you give, when you learn how to give, you
feel better always.
G: Yes.
M: And the person who gives feels always much better than the person who takes.
So whether you give advice, you give knowledge, you give a hand to somebody, you
00:18:00contribute what you can. It doesn't have to be money all the time, sometime you
just don't have it, but somebody ask you for assistance for help, don't back
down. Just do it.